The Problems of Inequality of our Inner and Outer Selves


Change the leaves and the whole tree will be poisoned. Change the roots and the whole tree will be changed.

We convince ourselves that the mask we wear is for the good of all. We fake it so as not to hurt the other person. We change our habits accordingly. We try. We live every day wearing our masks. We tell others to fly when their wings are still not ready. We tell others to smile when their hearts are still filled with tears. We lie to ourselves to make the other person feel better. We lie to the other person, to make ourselves look better. The more we distanced from the truth, the closer we became with the lie.

We walk on this thin line, where one missed step can inflict serious pain to other people. But little did we know that walking this thin line was inflicting serious pain to ourselves. Hiding behind the masks, poisoned our hearts and souls. The inequality between our inner and outer selves pressured our hearts to constant and silent pain. The longer we wore our masks, the further we distanced from our true selves. Lying to others not only gave us fake existence, but also gave others fake happiness.

But then we realize, that the lies can become truths, if the roots are changed. We realize, that we don’t have to try to change our leaves. We don’t have to burden ourselves walking the thin line. We don’t have to wear the mask. If we change our true selves. All lies can become truths because they don’t come only from our mind, but also from our heart. We don’t have to fake the language of love and happiness, if we become love and happiness. The poison can be cured and the fruit can once more become healthy. The people eating the fruit can receive true happiness, and we can once again become one with ourselves.

Photo from: G-Dragon – Coup D’etat

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The Purpose of Life

cherry tree - purpose of life

I sat down yesterday to study for my exam in front of the open window. It was a beautiful spring day. The cherry tree in the garden was basking in the shiny sun and the winds were playing in the vast playground. I opened my literature book and thought about the quarrel with my mother before that. Just as every quarrel, it was really unnecessary. I let my selfish feelings win over me, because I was too weak to put a smile on my face.

I figured out the purpose of our lives. It was really simple. I just had to feel the truth in my heart and let it reason for me. The purpose of our life is to live our dreams, and to give-and-receive love and happiness. It is as simple as that. We just have to live nurturing our dreams, talents and wishes, and cherish the people around, who love us and whom we love as well.

Until now, I thought I can give and receive happiness once I achieve something. I thought that I could help people in greater extents once I reached some higher point. But little did I realize that I was hurting people on the road. I was just preparing to live. I was stuck in the future-me, the improved-me, the successful-me. I was too selfish. My success was the most important thing, and I hurt people on the way there. I didn’t stop on the red lights, and I hurt people instead of letting them drive with me.

Now I know. That I can go for my dreams, and share love in the same time. Now I know. That I can love people and let them love me, every single moment.

Photo by: Benson Kua

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3 Things in Our Life We Can Enjoy Right Now

dandelion - 3 things in our life we can enjoy right now

Life passes by pretty fast, right? Especially when we close our eyes to our surroundings and don’t enjoy the journey. If you believe that we live only once, than our one life contrasted to the eternity is a pretty tiny thing. We use our day to be able to enjoy the tomorrow. But we usually get stuck in that cycle, the tomorrow comes, with a yet another tomorrow to work for. With this in mind, we can ask ourselves, if it will be already too late to live and enjoy when we get to the destination.

Here are three things in our life that we can enjoy right now.

1. Food. With the sun of capitalism up, we have turned into beings that strive for productivity and efficiency. And the time eating is often used by multitasking with either lurking on the web, reading news or even doing our work. We forgot the taste of food, and think of only how to gain energy and diminish hunger so that we can go back to being productive again. Today, try eating food, and eating food only, you will be surprised how better it tastes when we think of what is in front of us only. You can also enjoy it with your family.

2. Walk. In nature, in parks, or even in the streets. Take off your earplugs, and the phone on your hands, and just enjoy the surrounding. Look up at the sky and feel the pleasant blue color. Try to recognize the shapes of the clouds. Sit on a bench you have always just passed by. Think of all the good things happening in your life. Recognize how all the problems in your head are nothing serious. Be thankful for everything you have. Smile.

3. Fun. Go out with your friends and enjoy the time without thinking about work. Be curious about things happening in their lives. Eat food and walk with them. Watch something interesting at home with your family. A funny movie, a funny show. It will take the stress you gained through work off your back. Laugh and enjoy.

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Internal Language

do you speak human?

Do you occasionally find it difficult to understand people or for them to understand you? Do you have to manage countless blunders at home and out because of little misunderstandings? Are your intentions pure but the people around you constantly scold you?

We all speak at least one language proficiently, but why is it that we still get misunderstandings? Why is it that two people speaking the same language get to arguments? Even though they love each other?

We are human beings, and talking with humans is totally different than talking with robots. The external tools such as different languages were created to convey our internal meanings and feelings. But throughout the development of time, we have gotten colder and started to ignore other’s internal composition. We talk with pure reason and logic. Scratching the surface. We have forgot how to use our internal language.

The internal language is incorporated, its synchronized with who we are and it is more important than we think. It is the sum of ones will, emotion, dreams, intentions, meanings and other abstract elements. Once we start realizing the presence of this internal language between our relationships, we will be able to dodge the misunderstandings, blunders and fights.

Realize that every human being has a different internal language. Realize that our external language is only used to touch and communicate with the internal language. Remember that we are human beings that have feelings, needs and different wants. Keep the people whom you love and who love you by being conscious of their internal languages. Don’t break them with the sharp words. Because, that was not what you intended, right?

This post was created with the help of my father who gave me the idea of the internal language.

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